Those who can, do.
Those who can't, bully. Tim Field's Bully OnLine is the world's leading web site on workplace bullying and related issues which validates
the experience of bullying and provides confirmation, reassurance and re-empowerment
How do you know if you're being bullied? Bullying differs from harassment and assault in that the latter can result from a single incident or small number of incidents - which everybody recognises as harassment or assault - whereas bullying tends to be an accumulation of many small incidents over a long period of time. Each incident tends to be trivial, and on its own and out of context does not constitute an offence or grounds for disciplinary or grievance action. So, ...
What is bullying?
Recovery and Re-empowerment after Bullying and Abusive Life Events
(eg harassment, stalking, bullying from school days, burnout, bankruptcy, breakdown, trauma, redundancy, domestic violence, divorce, conflict, abuse or any significant emotional shock)
A full day public seminar for everyone in which Tim Field offers
practical advice and strategies for healing and recovery
Author, Tim Field
receiving his honorary doctorates from Mellen University (left, London, March 1999)
and Southampton Institute (right, Southampton, November 2000)
The Field Foundation
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Harassment and discrimination
including sexual harassment, sex discrimination, racial harassment, racial discrimination
What is harassment?
Harassment is any form of unwanted and unwelcome behaviour which may range from mildly unpleasant remarks to physical violence.
Harassment is termed sexual harassment if the unwanted behaviours are linked to your gender or sexual orientation. The EU definition of sexual harassment is "unwanted conduct of a sexual nature or other conduct based on sex affecting the dignity of men and women at work".
Racial harassment is when the behaviours are linked to your skin colour, race, cultural background, etc. In countries with sectarian tradition (eg as in Ireland) the term sectarian harassment is often used if the behaviours are linked to your religious beliefs or perceived religious origin or inclination. If the harassment is physical, the criminal law of assault may be appropriate. If the harassment comprises regular following, watching, repeated unsolicited contact or gifts, etc, the term stalking may be appropriate.
Discrimination is when you are treated differently (eg less favourably) because of your gender, race or disability.
The differences between harassment and bullying are summarised on the page on bullying. Briefly, harassment tends to have a strong physical component and is usually linked to gender, race, disability or physical violence; bullying tends to be a large number of incidents (individually trivial) over a long period comprising constant unjustified and unsubstantiated criticism.... |
Why me?
There are many reasons how and why bullies target others, but the reasons are surprisingly consistent between cases. There are many myths and stereotypes such as "victims are weak" which I deconstruct on my myths page.
1) How do bullies select their targets?
Rebuffing the myths, misperceptions and stereotypes which sustain bullying
One of the reasons that progress on dealing with bullying is held back is because of the myriad of myths and misperceptions surrounding the subject. A number of studies published in the media over the last few years have propagated false stereotypes. Such studies are based exclusively on notoriously unreliable self-reporting tick-sheet surveys with poorly-defined questions. Despite claims of being evidence-based, the originators of the studies often have no experience of case work or involvement with cases.
What some people call "bullying" is really tough dynamic management
The purpose of bullying is to hide inadequacy. Good managers manage, bad managers bully. Bullies bully to hide their weakness and inadequacy, and to divert attention away from their incompetence. Many employers don't want to calculate the cost of low morale, poor productivity, poor customer service, high sickness absence, high staff turnover and frequent grievance and legal action that are a consequence of "tough dynamic management".....
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AIDS Memorial Quilt
The Mission of the NAMES Project Foundation:
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To preserve, care for, and use the AIDS Memorial Quilt to foster healing, heighten awareness, and inspire action in the struggle against HIV and AIDS. |
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